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Okay. You missed the point. The topic was codependency, and that was the context of my remarks. The "love thing" is often used to reinforce the sense of codependency, and that's why the "love game" can be so fraught.

Your views are conventional and apparently well-adjusted. Have fun and play responsibly.

The reason I started a new topic was because I did get the point and did not want to muddy the waters of the other thread.

Fair enough. Sofia's posts tend to create long threads.

Dear Edge, thanks for the respect shown to the other branches. And I would like to ask Seems to be not so categorical in his statements, since we all are here expressing our various opinions not in order to get another label on them)))) let's leave it for real life)))
I noticed two points in Edge's post: one - we should not allow our deep emotions rise to surface; and the second is about the fact that none of the women is ready to consider a man who is a frequent visitor of such sites as a marriage partner (by the way, this is just about codependency))).
In my opinion, very many, if not the absolute majority, ended up on this site precisely because they could not allow their deepest emotions go to surface in real life (it is not accepted in society, it will be too much for my loved one, etc.) , and these deep emotions were formed as a result of other earlier deep emotions, which for various reasons also remained unmanifested or unsatisfied ... I don't think anyone was born with the understanding that such sites are the coolest place for getting satisfaction ... Including me (as a host) appeared on this site perforce and initially experienced great resistance, and only in the process of communicating with you my point of view began to change. So, a person comes to this site as a result of suppressing his deepest emotions and here he further seeks to suppress these deepest emotions. As a result, for some time he runs around the rooms of different hosts (each is enough for a different time), and then this becomes boring and more and more boredom and melancholy begins ... a person moves from flirting and communication to fetishes, to bdsm, to various special forms of interaction and excitement, but over time he still has to look for something new. And all because the need itself (deep emotions) are ignored and suppressed. And regarding the second moment, I got the feeling that you yourself think that the fact you communicate on such sites is already a kind of label and such men cannot be considered as future husbands. Yes, as already mentioned in the previous thread, those who are ready to love, enter into a relationship, take responsibility are not particularly noticeable here. But, by the way, not all girls understand that their chosen one should be ready for this. It seems to me that it is still worth distinguishing between the concepts of love and the relationship between a man and a woman. Love is love for everything, when a person discovers the ability to love everything and everyone, then he himself is filled with that love that we all lack so much, because first of all, he begins to love himself in a real way, and not just to be selfish. And then, from this state, he can already look around and choose with which of the people he knows he would like to enter into a relationship and into what kind of relationship. And then there will be no danger even in the manifestation of their emotions on such sites, because a person will be free from any dependencies. It probably sounds utopian and theoretically ... I understand ... But please do not hide your emotions even the deepest here - if at least here you dare to show these deep feelings, you will begin to see them in a different light, this site can to be healing, not perverse.

As always Sofia I enjoy reading your thoughtful, articulate and enlightening posts. Thank you

Thank you, Edge, for giving a reason to think about it.

I apologize for the "categorical" nature of my quick reply. My mind tends that way when I am trying to define something and not allow another to box my answer in. But that certainly works both ways, and so to your point... this is an interesting topic in itself, and Edge you have shown yourself to be open-minded here also.

Sofia you posit an interesting evolution to a member's experiences here. I think the distance created by CC as a remote connection that enables relationships to develop in a "safe" way can be a barrier to deepening those relationships in the long run, because location, language, culture can be obstacles too great to overcome.

But I think you are right that an honest and deeply-felt relationship here can happen, and it can be a healing one, even if it creates hurt, if you can transcend that hurt and can see clearly. To give just one example.

And sometimes as I've said elsewhere the connection happens in the moment and leaves you stunned, having lost track of time or a sense of yourself. :P

Would that be called "harmonizing" (since your name is "Harmony")?

Perhaps it is best to initially define codependency. My sense is you are describing the person who via their dysfunctional relationship with another person ends up facilitating the other person's addictions, whatever they may be. My hunch is people who do this usually do not realize they are actually hurting their friend, family member or partner. The classic addictions that quickly spring to mind involve alcohol and drugs. But certainly there are many other self destructive addictions such as food, gambling or even working too much. And since we are at CC we need to mention addiction to sex as well. It seems likely to me that many here may be "addicted to sex." Some say there is no such thing as a sex addiction, but I would disagree. If you go to CC Community often enough for example you will sooner or later hear about what people call the "money slave." In this situation for example hosts consciously may take advantage of a member's unhealthy addiction to a host and rationalize the relationship by saying things such as, "No one forces him (or her) to be here." I would suggest this is a rationalization and does not speak well of the host's moral character.

It won't surprise anyone who knows me as Mr. Bla Bla but I ran out of space on my prior response. :)

Anyway it works both ways. My understanding is that although men can fall victim to codependency, women comprise the majority of codependents, perhaps because women seem to be biologically a bit more "hard wired" for relationships than men in many respects. Once again thanks for the post Sofia.

Thanks for the answer, NoOne! ))) Are you a multi-namemaker or is this actually your first post that I met here? )
In many ways I agree with you, but I want to clarify some points right away. Regarding the definition of a codependents: they, of course, contribute to the dependence of a loved one (since recovery from codependency is accompanied by an improvement in the situation of the addict), but in my opinion, the codependent initially attracts (seeks) an already addicted person and hurts not so much him, how much to hisself ... and, of course, does not realize it ...
"It seems to you that many here may be addicted to sex", but not you, of course? )))))) You're right, there are a huge number of very different addictions. Which one is inherent in you? ))) For example, I am quite obviously addicted to sweets (from what is on the surface))))) And also, I wanted to comment on the moral qualities of the hosts that satisfy the needs of slaves ... I think that we should not do such categorical conclusions, since everything is very individual. I myself have already experienced this on myself more than once - a very fine line - where is the needs of a member, and where is my own responsibility and my own choice.
And do you have anything to do with codependency in your personal life experience (here or in real life)?

Although I enjoy answering many subjects brought up in the Forum , both contributors questions/answers are too long for me to address each and every point. The broad definition of Addiction "is an inability to stop using a substance or engaging in a behavior even though it is causing psychological and physical harm." My guess would be that a majority of people, hosts and members, on CC do not fall into the category of "addiction". Of those that maybe "addicted" I am guessing again that many are not "sex addicts". We are on CC for a variety of reasons, and as hosts will tell you, they come across a great variety of behaviors and activities throughout the range of human behavior.

Are we as members "codependent" on the hosts we frequent? It depends on whether the relationship is unhealthy for one or the other or both. I would submit that, although it drains my bank account, my interactions are fun and stress relieving, therefore not unhealthy for me.

So, based on the above, I do not consider myself to be "addicted" or "codependent" while engaged in activities on CC.

If I was addicted to masturbation, and then became addicted to sex, would it be safe to say that my addiction got out of hand?

LOL.u so addict perv!!!!!
WHO can stop my addict to blablabla.......?

Are you the linguist, Smarty? Or are you a smart addict? ))) Or is everything always in your hands? )))

Thank you for your answer)) You, as always, are a lover of balancing on the edge without falling in one direction or the other)))

As always Sofia, you are the Mistress of word play.

What else is left for me? You are not ready to play other games with me ...))))

I am always ready for you. The problem is, you are never here when I am. :-(

"Petite, et dabitur vobis; quaerite, et invenietis; pulsate, et aperietur vobis. Omnis enim qui petit, accipit; et, qui quaerit, invenit; et pulsanti aperietur."
I do not claim the authorship of these lines, but I will not dare to challenge either))

I am definitely looking for the door.

guilty as charged :( It manifests in many forms. None healthy for the mind or soul.

I agree, rather we all are recovering)))))

but if serios - i think all fault in dofamin
thats only one about we all here or not here addicted fo

If seriously... If seriously, I think that all the fault is in finding the one in whom is fault for everything))))

nobody
and everyone
:)))))

the answer of a true woman! ))))))

Oh yes, a true woman indeed.

Oh I know so much about codepency. But my english sucks to talk about :D

I see my English is far from yours)))) and what is your native language?

Your English is better than a lot of native English speakers :-)

I have no special insight and fortunately am not in a position to have to make any sort of diagnosis about co-dependency. But it seems to me the connection between two people is everything. If you don't turn her into the object of your desire, create stories about your real or imagined relationship, you can just be with her and enjoy what happens. And maybe the connection between you will deepen into something you can't define.

A host-friend here years ago told me the most dangerous game on CC is the love game. Love is a blessing, not an obligation. Co-dependence is a forced relationship. You can't just decide to love somebody: it happens. Of course here it's too easy to mistake a sensation in the loins for love, but if you are self-aware enough you get through that. Especially when you make that connection, even once.

Thank you for the forum post Sofia.

Very insightful Seems. And although I never thought of it that way, falling in love or even just getting a crush is both a huge thrill but also one of the bigger risks here. Like you I have always said it may be easy to confuse lust and love for many of us. I am not sure quite sure where that line that crosses over into co dependency is, but it clearly happens over and over. And because members pay for the company of hosts it is easily taken advantage of by some. And in regards to falling in love? It has been said many times and in many ways that it is really a form of insanity driven by hormones. As always "enjoy but play responsibly." I actually stole that quote from our local lottery officials but I do believe it works here as well. :)

Hahaha pete, I like the lottery analogy. "Play responsibly"= watch your wallet. Of course there are other games to play here, not just the love game. Maybe it's easier if you have a fetish to pursue and satisfy, because then the "object of your affection" is clearly just an object of your lust.

Of course, maybe one day you will look up from the feet and fall in love with the face...

FACE?

Hahaha yes! Of course, there's always personality to consider also... :))))

APOLOGISE but u all here talk not about love -
about love t o self - yes - but love some other thats not about whats u try tell here -
i bad with english ,for expleine right - i find my things in youtub for help to expleine u
whats i try to say .
alse i would add ''love its to take the responsibility onself for someone '' i never meet thats here - alll u talk about thats about love to self and own feelings
https://youtu.be/ZKrHz01wfiA

I agree with you for the most part, xxbabe. My host friend was talking about the love "game," not about love itself. The game is an illusion. And the connection two people make doesn't have to be about love. When two people really connect (even here on CC), it is about presence. It is about not being lost in your own dream, but instead paying attention to another. And it takes two to tango. If love happens in that situation (I think it can), it is almost by accident.

Those are just my thoughts on the subject, nothing more.

Thank you for your reply :)

And thank you for the link. Because it's in Russian, I'll have to figure out how to figure it out :))) But knowing it comes from you, I know it will be worth checking out.

Sorry, I was absent for a while, it was not ignoring comments))) I'm glad that new members have joined)) And I absolutely support Babedoll (by the way, the video has subtitles in Russian only, the man speaks English so, Seems, to find out just click on the link and listen))))))
Both Seems and Pete wrote about how easy it is to confuse lust with love - Babedoll gave an exhaustive answer in my opinion - lust is to take, and love is to give. The only thing, I will add, it seems to me that "to love is to take responsibility for another person on yourself" - it`s fair rather in relation to men. Loving on the part of a woman is a little different. I also did not meet those who want to love here)) Judging by the comments, people create special love games to make this question not so scary, but even in the game, they are still afraid of this. On the one hand, the most desirable, and on the other, the most frightening state - to love.... At first glance, a strange paradox .. On the other hand, usually the most scary things are what are unknown. And a person is capable of voluntarily and sincerely giving only what he has in abundance. Therefore, there are no people willing to give, because it is not there is no abundance of it only, but by and large, most of us does not know what love is. This site is the perfect place to satisfy curiosity and experiment. Therefore, I would urge the members not to be afraid of any games and feelings or states (I will try to explain this in more detail in the Edge`s thread). And the phrase of the lottery officials I would be formulated "Enjoy playing consciously")))
And yet, it seems to me that we smoothly began to discuss not codependency, but the addiction itself, but I think it doesn’t matter - it’s important that we talk about what is important to us! Thank you all for this))))

Aargh. I was thinking of another video that babedoll shared with me, maybe in comm chat, not the one she mentioned in her post. The video she mentioned here... making a distinction between lust and love...that seems straightforward.

But I was not necessarily talking about love when I mentioned making a connection, and perhaps I put emphasis on love because it can be so overwhelming a "connection." Often the interaction here is a transaction, simply enough: I want something from you, and you want something from me. It can be boobs and butts, or time and attention, dancing around a fetish, whatever. It is self-directed, as it were, and then we get whatever we can from the interaction.

But at times in your meetings you discover more, a sympathy of feeling & thoughts & disposition (and yes, even lust), and that can in turn lead to something else that you may have trouble defining. In my experience here it is unpredictable and rare, and it has led to the most memorable encounters I've had.

I'm veering off topic here but thought maybe this would be interesting.

it's kinda hard to get people organized for this, most come around at different times, so most group sessions happen randomly, by chance :))

I could invite my sexy gf)

Contact me, if you are interested:)

I would think the logistics and organisation would be difficult to manage.
Sure, you could get all the users "signed up" for it, but how would you stop other traffic coming in and potentially breaking it up by going 1-2-1.

All 3 of you hosts already commented are stunning women, stopping those guests (passing traffic if you will) either coming in half way through, or as above going to 1-2-1 would be nigh on impossible unless all other users temporarily blocked for the group show, and that's not great for any regulars unaware of the group show.
I say this with absolutley no knowledge of being a host (or how it works now) , just a happy guest here.

good luck if you can get it done, certainly interesting, might be a new revenue stream?

Good luck if you can

2 options: as i know, only the first member that came in video can take the model in one2one. or there are session with password. the model is online, but a member can get in video only if he has the password

We are here very often to do it,,,
its easy organise
just need exactly know mmodels who u want to be with

It seems to me that many are on vacation now and have stopped visiting CC :(

it is possible:)
people are happy that lockdown is over and they should not stay at home all the time, so they try to compensate the time they stayed at home with spending their vacations:))))

by the way, how is it going the summer for everyone?

Summer is going. Thats all :D I had mini holidays near the Black sea. Hope will have one more in August. Anyway cc is quiet now)

Seems yes. CC is really quiet now. Hope they all will back after holidays soon)

I believe the best way to help you would be to visit you to give an assessment of your performance.

how about me?

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Ahh..surely that is one of the "eternal" questions that roll around this "space." Every host wants the key to more vids, Which is understandable of course. I have to believe most people would believe with the following statement: "It is impossible to please them all." Anyway....I have pondered how a host might handle this. Perhaps a couple of accounts with a different "persona" so as to appeal to different members. Such as: sweet (and sorta innocent", dom, girl next door, femme fatale, etc.....

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I thought you were so smart you did not need any advice.

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no, we cant!

Thanks for answering.

I wondered the same thing. I think there is one site where the chat hosts can see when you are online there. I am no longer there partly because of that.

I know on imlive the models can see if your on

Yep, they lost my business for that reason too

hey hey hey

Good manners!

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a man who can flirt, has imagination, but also can have a conversation and humour is a man i can always remember without even looking at my notes :D in one word: chemistry!

Big tips:))))I can never forget the biggest tip here :))))

LOL.....an honest reply

Gentlemen ,inteligent man and fun ones also

Unusual requests and fetishes, extraordinary compliments, and yes - big tips as well :):) And as DariaUkr , I have also got a memory for faces.

As for me, must be friends or regulars for me remmebering everything about him without taking notes..before were not tips..but still we have regulars and men who were in our memory.but usualy must be visit not 1 time in year!

As a member, I'd say all of the above. Physical attractiveness is important, for that is what initially will attract me -- but it is by no means the most important factor. And, if that is all there is, I may even enjoy a moment of sexual satisfaction with her; but that is all it will be: "a moment."

If on the other hand, she is someone I can connect with on an intellectual and emotional level, if there is an ability to communicate and understand each other, if both she and I are positively engaged in the activity - then she will become for me someone I enjoy being with again and again. That is what makes our video chats memorable.

And when I have found that person, I desire to see no one else, and everyone else fades into the background.

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works both ways, I've had hosts that were quite rude (maybe it was their style) and demanding (come into one-2-one, send gift, give cam). I don't mind being asked, but not demanded. But I still think it is super tacky to ask the member to give a gift.

I agree with you there cam4.

I will leave if a girl says "go 121" after 30 seconds. If, after some conversation, the girl wants 121 to feel comfortable with the experience to come, more often than not I will accommodate.

lol...."awful perverts". What about "good" perverts Sofia?

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I sent you a list through Discord

Thanks again for that list.

Welcome)))) ;)

You could consider renaming yourself "00Westlain" :)

Excellent suggestion! However, that would takeaway the essence of my being.

We know that you guys love Community chat and free chat rooms. But it's sometimes tiresome to spend hours online just to keep up cute free conversations)))) Please think about starting in video chat - I'm sure the response rate from us girls will tend to exceed 100%))))) A lot of thanks )))

100% support your opinion

Thank you, SintraLove ))))))

Personally my modud operandi is to start in Community Chat, then move to PM chat and get a feeling for the woman. If I get a good vibe I then move to video. Diving into a video right away without any prior conversation has not been very successful for me. I also think that going into a woman's room without checking with her is a bit rude.

I understand you and agree with you. It is really nice for the guest to show respect for the host. Although, sometimes it is also very nice when a man shows a sense of possessiveness and breaks into the video chat without warning - varietas delectat.... And of course, it also looks cute when the host shows respect for the guest and provides an opportunity to meet in free correspondence, but everything is good that measure)))) But, in fact, it is useless to write on such topics, because it depends on the person, on his respect for himself in the first place. If he respects himself and those around him in life and appreciates his own and others' time and efforts, then he always leaves the best and sometimes even amazing impression on the site. And if a person in life is looking only for an opportunity to save money and underpay, and at the same time wonders why his clients and contractors are all so greedy and intractable, then here he will also behave exactly the same, no matter how much and no matter what we write about it. .. As for me, one of the best features of this site is that there are a lot of people here who know how to respect themselves and others! Thank you so much for this! )))))

Sofia, you are right, there are times I set up to meet with a young lady, and there are also times i simply like to go in and surprise them for a few minutes to see how they are doing. :)

P.S. Sofia is a fun one to visit

Thanks for the ad, Mike! ))) And of course, you are welcome in both ways)))

There are a lot of guests who spend a lot of time in free chat and talk about sex and do not want to pay. Such people do not value my time. This is not respect for models in the first place and not a desire to pay. After such cases, the trust in guests decreases.
I can write here a list of nicknames that are constantly logged in to spend time for free, but I will not do that.

Have a nice day, everyone, and justice in this world.

80% of the guys in a comm chat usually dont do vids, or they vid extremelly rarely.
so if you dont want to waste your time, simply dont go to comm chat . easy:)

i don't think she was reffering to chatting for free in comm chat, but about the guests who come in our rooms and want to talk for hours without ever joining the video chat. both valid arguments, but u 2 were talking about different things, i think. have fun!

yes you understood me correctly

95% from com chat was in my video ,
and i courios how can u know about all guys in com chat? are u host?

Agree with you babedoll. I met you in community chat. I have no idea what 80% of members do anywhere, anytime lol

lets say i've been told it by some number of hosts. well, if 95% of the comm chat guys were in ur payed chat, then you are lucky and a big welldone, babydoll :)

yes ,indeed,i am lucky here
btw u are in my 5% who dont did my pay videochat from comunitychat-probably cose i didnt invited u in my nude privat chat

In comm chat the intelligent hosts like Babedoll capture our attention with interesting conversation :)
The hosts that simply send PMs with "come to me I'm naked" most of the people on comm chat ignore, so for those it probably is 95% that don't come to video.

I can't speak for anyone else in CommChat - but I ignore just about 100% of PM's in Comm Chat, especially the ones that "Come see me I'm naked". Occasionally, I will respond if the host seems genuinely interested in conversation, but rarely have I found that to be true (the PM's, that is). Most are just come-ons.

more and more often I get the impression that people come to the site in order to crap someone as much as possible. and apparently they get a lot of pleasure from it. Feel like a hero-winner if they succeeded in public.
guys ! you are in the wrong place! self-realization occurs in deeds and not in words.stop lie urself
nobody perfect on earth - let's respect each other - at least for not to clog our own brain with not bottom shit at all .
here, both girls and men would like to find something positive but I noticed the longer they look for it-themore they deeper in the negative.
want to make the world a better place - start with yourself!
believe me - it works
wish all a lot of positive and dirty sex!XOXO

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=adV_-aRo7fo&ab_channel=ALEXKOSTYCHEV

Then why do you go to Community Chat?

The great thing about a free society is that I do not have to answer inane questions like yours.

I do have empathy for hosts trying to get vids in community chat room. Because I have been participating in that "space" for far too many years I have to believe I have seen every possible type of approach to lure members to vid. They range from the simple, "Hi," to the the sexually explicit "I am wet and horny for you bby," to the truly creative enticement that appeals to the mind and not just the male sex drive. I am sure it is frustrating to the hosts to chat in there and not have it result in a video. But the fact is many people just go there to talk with friends or kill time. My response to the private messages (PMs) from hosts has varied over the years except for the fact I would like to think I am at the very least not rude in declining their offers of a vid. As always I wish all hosts long vids with decent human beings and may all members find their fantasy host.

Kindly and well put, pete. Which means more hosts will now yearn to get you in vid and be sadly disappointed.

Oh, it's good that most of the guests on CC don't waste their time on community chat, but take and call without any hesitation. They know exactly what they want and this attracts the model.

Of course I prefer regular guests.
Friendship + sympathy + interesting time together often develop with regular guests (you know what I mean)

P.S. you said you have several nicknames here, can you name them?

OverTheLedgeLover RidgeLover

Remember variety is the spice of life.

Of course regulars are best.

to have a regular guest, you need to meet new guests who can later become permanent hehe

Been thinking the same, been here a lot longer and got to say I prefer having 2 or 3 regular hosts that I chat with. They have changed over time as chathosts come and go. In part I prefer a couple of regular hosts because I have my own strange need from videochats that can be hard to fulfill, but also because for me, everything that we do on here is more fun if there is a good connection with at the chathost. At the moment I have two girls I chat too regulalry, neither get fully naked and they understand my need. Most days when i am here, we chat for up to an hour, but if I only have 10 minutes to chat one day, then I tell them, they know what to do/what they dont need to do and we are all happy.

I think your models cherish you♥

Hmmm, still early , isn't it on June 20th?

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Thank you. It is always on Sunday, but I appreciate your good thoughts, Twink.

This means the model did not read the rules. It is forbidden to talk on the phone during the video chat.And this is not respect for the viewer in the first place.

You have a large selection of models. Good luck with your choice.

And there are a lot that evidently skip over that rule. Or they text maybe they think you cant see but it is so obvious. Or the ones that always leave the computer on that are never there, collecting the nickels and dimes. Worst of all the ones that are on other sites at the same time when you are supposed to be in private, you can go to other site and see them there while they talk to you.. A lot of girls her complain in profile about guests not saying goodbye but I just pull the plug. I am complaining too much today, so goodbye :)

you wrote everything correctly here.....I do not understand these girls and why it is impossible to postpone the telephone conversation until later

oh im sorry..they was probably texting me...whoopsy...but yeah i know how you feel :)

hmmmmm .maybe some of they want u leave they -just to polite to ask u that for don hurt yur feelings
(not sure ) but can be like exempl...:)

Too polite? So they are exceptionally rude instead. Also, Its not that they are too polite they are playing you to get as much money as they can. So I return the favor and pull the plug.

very true . nobody ask u stay . leave just - and who will care -dont will try use thats tricks next time.

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So why not teach them a lesson before pulling the plug?
Have a copy/paste of the rule to give them then tell them, "this is why I'm leaving. Next time don't break the rules. Don't be so rude!"

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Sofia, are you talking about being on the phone with the person you are videoing with or while you are ordering the plastic to wrap yourself in?

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yes she is a recorded session...i asked her simple stand up and she left :)

Report it to CC. Unless it says it is pre-recorded it is against TOS.

i did..she is bye bye :)

Hey! I was watching that!

i think any nickname should be uppercase. Fetish category has a little more range than Dungeon so what might appeal to me might not appeal to others. Maybe SlaveMaker for me lol

Addicted2love suits better for Girls category. LadyMarvel, that is pretty interesting for Fetish , indeed. Are you going to cosplay the cartoon characters?

that would be CaptainMarvel or MsMarvel LadyModel but i see where your thoughts are :)

i think i have already seen the name addicted2love. but if not, why not? personally, i like addicted2love over LadyMarvel. The second doesn't do anything for me, and certainly doesn't say to me: "Come and see me!"

Good luck in your choice!

Another interesting topic that requires my opinion:-). Does the name make a difference? That is the question. let me think a minute. I think it does in Community Chat as the name is all you see initially. In all other area of CC, there are profile pics with the name so for me the pics outweigh the name. As I said, in Community Chat, where I usually hang out, you can only see the name, so in that case I am influenced by the name first then I look at the profile pics. In answer to your question, of the two names Lady Marvel is the better for the category. However, for me, neither name would draw me to your profile.

Is the rating important to you or are you just leafing through and choosing from the photo?

The rating makes no difference whether I initiate a conversation with the girl. I have had good experiences with low rated girls and not so good with high rated girls. I think that on some level I am drawn to the girl by her photos although once again some "good looking" photos do not always reflect the beauty of the girl and some "not so good looking" have turned out to be beautiful girls. Of course, for the girl, the dilemma is how to get a guest 1) to chat with them, 2) into their room. A catchy name and a "good" pic/s are necessary. For example, for me, your name is "blah" but your pic is "wow". Bottom line is that I enter a room and get to know the girl then make a decision whether she goes on my favorite list and I visit her again, regardless of whether she is "beautiful"on the outside or not. A long answer to a short question.

A good detailed answer. It was interesting to know your opinion.

A looot of girls here with thick fake lips :D

Girls give lip injections for enlargement. It is painful and not pleasant, but many people like the "Duck Lips" effect.

Now the fashion for naturalness and I think it's cool!

Yeah, duck lips are ugly. And I never met a men who would like it. But seems smarty does))

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You are all silly the thick duck lips are for sucking.

mmmmm WOW. Tnx for let me know now ....

i just have things if they need do some injection only for do suck better - whyy they dont do some injection in assholes?
or in the brain for exempl.
:)
well but i realy neutral yto all who do- i dont mind about whats girls want to do with self- my good friend the dr who doing thats injections to they:)
and sometime girls who visit her realy need to do for corection -if they have posible to pay-why no?

hahahahah ''duck-lips''
lol u remembered me one nice song -caling ''duck-fase'' ( u can find in youtub)
lol

Duck lips is a good description for some of them. I saw one once that looked like she did the trick of sucking on a large diameter bottle, pulling the lips inside and making them swollen, usually just the middle of the lips. It used to be a joke to play on someone, but now I see a few hosts who look like they tried it too often.

I prefer thin natural lips the most though :)

Ahh..so many names for it. And many not so complimentary. Yes...duck lips, trout pout lips, bee sting lips, cherry lips. Plastic surgery of one type or other is a common topic around here. It seems so many are not happy with what nature gave them (or imparts on them as they age). And that applies to members and hosts as well. :)
Is anybody satisfied out there????

Why? Duck lip effect is hideous! Quack Quack

Oh... I guess i'm not in the "many" who like duck lips haha

LOL

Injections/ some makeup/ genetics and good care for sure :)

I think a pleasant smile and a great mood always complement the makeup .... and it doesn't matter what helped just lipstick or the services of a beautician)))) I wish you all good and real emotions !!!

Brunette - i like ur ansver(K)
tnx u
and wish you have smile to.so beautiful always

Cant be a good smile, for me a smile will always be a womans best feature. With jut one smile, a woman can either turn you on or make you afraid :)

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Which lips do you mean. Up or down?

It is possible that this is the first adequate answer! LOL

You know I am always thinking :-) Especially about "below".

Thinking so much about "below" could be harmful. I think it is worth sharing your morning coffee more often and replacing thinking with experiencing)))))

That is an offer I find hard to resist.:-)

Do not force yourself ))))))

Of course why not?

I am curious. Why would someone pay to visit her based on your request? Why not ask her to send you a pic of her feet?

he is a shy footlover :P

She won't do it. I can tell you that already. And she doesn't do pictures either.

I did offer to buy pictures from here but she wouldn't do it.

Time to examine your head space and give this up. Your increasingly frantic attempts to see this girls soles are are making you look like a stalker. Anyone can see your comments here including her and you are probably weirding her out. And didn't you say a few weeks ago you bought a cam? What's with that?

I agree. If she hasn't shown them to you yet, she's never gone too. Just move on and find somebody that will and leave her alone.

lol, can't you tell this is advertising? obviously :))

You may be correct, but looking back over cummysoles posts in the Viewers forum, I don"t think so. I just think he has a bad taste in women.

She's not advertising. And if she was, she wouldn't be trying to get guys to come to her for that. She just talks and thats it. I've been with her for over 7 years now and I know she doesn't do feet.

Bad advertisement is also advertisement. It doesn't matter what people say about you, as long as they get your name right.  Maybe they set up an experiment, how many members will come to see the model with one blurry 5 years old photo in her profile after she was constantly mentioned on the forum, even in a negative connotation.  Or everything is simple and cummysoles just needs the help of a psychiatrist on the obsession ideas problems.

LOL

who needs a doctor? i can cure him!
LOL

He does not need another obsession,babe.

thats pity:)
i feel boring

You could cure any illness Yulia :)

mmmmm with pleasure - just pacients afraide my treatment
haha- nobody brave

LOL babedoll, great answer.

Maybe it's time to change the coffee machine? )))))))))))))))))))

Hahahaha..yes you may be correct about changing the coffee. I think that I wrote so much to keep me from being enticed into another room.

Psychologists say that we are afraid of what we really want ... Entering your fear is the path to freedom ...

I am glad that I do not have to pay for your advice :-)

This is not my advice and not advice at all .... they say .... I do not give free advice))))))

a hint of danger

Do you like danger, Doug? )))

Interesting answer 🤔 :) 😀

boobs and booty always brighten my day...thats my deep thought :) you're welcome :)

No doubt about it, Obi...! The bigger boobs and booty - the deeper the thoughts! ))) There was such a humorist Zhvanetsky ... He said: "What do I like about the mini (he meant the skirt) - the future is visible"))))))

My interest in my fetish always keeps me interested as some ladies want to dive deeper into the idea. Always fun to see their imagination.

And can you share with us what they impressed you the most?

Some models who discover my interest simply state "thats interesting and let me try it" or "Oh I can do this, thats easy". I am flattered by the statement only to discover that they have no knowledge or real interest in learning about it.
There are others who ask "tell me more about it" and are more sincere when they say "Im not sure I am who you are looking for" and resepect my time and money.
Then there are those who will send a photo or offer a few minutes to see if this is what they are looking for. Some of them will do some homework and understand and practice poses in advance. Once they can achieve the pose and look, they like to continue learning more and find small ways to make themselves look even more artificial as a mannequin. They send simple teases of photos and poses to entice me.Those are the ones who intrigue and impress me. That is where I choose to invest

Thank you for such a detailed and sincere answer! I hope now there will be even more impressions! ))))

All my friends are going to say that I'm just "buttering" you hosts up, Sofia ...wait, there's an interesting idea, who's got REAL butter in their fridge :P....but for me over all the years I've been visiting CC, I've always been impressed with the not just the beauty of most hosts, but also their intelligence and educational level....Oh, and all the outstandingly great popkye tozhe :)

I practically do not use butter, like other dairy products, so they are definitely not in my fridge))) And I aree with your observations ... It is really very nice when a man can not only connect two words "show me", but support a pleasant versatile conversation, after that even his popka looks very inspiring))))))))))))))

I believe a gentleman would not speak of his truly astonishing encounters here. The fact that he lingers these halls, still, should perhaps speak for itself.

I am sure that a true gentleman, even here, appreciates such things in his astonishing encounters and can describe them in such words that it can be worthy of small talk at the highest level. In any case, I don't think we should be ashamed of what really touches us to the core.

When I first came here during what feels like the last geological era (Cenozoic), I was surprised by how many stunning and beautiful women were here. They I was surprised how articulate in English and interesting they were. Now I confess I am not often surprised but I hope to be. At this point in time the biggest thing that surprises me is that I continue to so frequently visit camcontacts.com.

Mmmm .... We quickly get used to the good things and begin to take it for granted)))) It seems to me that it is natural that men need female energy and whether they admit it or not, but they will always be attracted by places where there are a lot of beautiful and interesting women. It's another matter - if they admit it - they will benefit from this, if not - unsuccessfully fight with themselves, spend a considerable amount of their own energy on this and, as a result, depend on the places where beautiful women are concentrated even more)))))

women are superior beings

Don't want to mind at all))))))))))))))))))

As always I am surprised by your answer. :) I have pondered your reply and I suppose it is true that to a certain extent "ennui" can kick in with almost all experiences, even gazing at gorgeous woman. Seems hard to believe as our desires such as hunger for food, sex and the urge to socialize are ever renewing. To be honest I spend much of the time I am at CC in Community Chat where I do not even see who I am chatting with. So...there is "female energy" in the chat room but I am not actually seeing all the pretty woman. Anyway one of the words I learned here at CC is "Interlocutor." It is not a word we use where I live but apparently it shows up in the translators many hosts use. And you are a terrific interlocutor!

Thanks Pete! You are very kind to your interlocutors))))) Therefore, I was talking about female energy, and not just watching a woman's body or a show. What word is used where you live?

Where I live in the United States we would likely say something along the lines of, "You are a great conversationalist." Or perhaps an older person might say, "You have the gift of gab." Those older people might say to me because I tend to talk a lot, "pete9 talks my ear off every time I chat with him!" Whatever you call it I appreciate your effort to bring the forums alive with your words. Be well Sofia.

Thanks Pete! Mutually! ))

I am not sure about the Flashmob of boring, but I do enjoy watching a good flashmob now and then. Who would not? https://www.sootoday.com/videos/it-came-from-the-internet/watch-incredible-russian-flashmob-puts-on-the-ritz-9746

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2VPrT-KA-5I

So nice! )) Thank you, Babedoll!!! ))))

urwelcome Sofia,pete
(hugs)

That was excellent babedoll!
Спасибо

Good one xxbabe :)

You always post interesting YouTube s 😀

Do they say that Russians are cold and boring?

Which brings up another topic: Stereotypes we tend to have concerning people from various cultures and countries. Some are misconceptions perhaps, but some are probably true to a certain extent. CC is an excellent melting pot of the world to get a sense of other peoples. Perhaps another string for this topic if the mood strikes. Because as we all know, one of the key questions in CC is, "How mood bby?" :)

Yes, I will be happy to raise this topic, especially since this statement about Russians really surprised me ... But, perhaps, a little later ... I would really like to read the topics of other members of our community ...

''It happens that a person is rude to you.
And cold, like a one-time passer-by.
And harsh words fall from lips.
But ass... ass feel - person is good.

It happens that a person is nice to you.
Nods, speaks and looks cute.
And unlike the uniform asshole.
But ass ... ass feels - asshole.

I would have quarreled with him to dust and fluff,
But magic power is hidden in it:
Everything fails - both sight and hearing ...
but ass has never failed!''

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Will do she is from South America not Ukraine

Even so, the point she makes is that not every payment system is available everywhere. Some are prohibited. Some are just not available.

your host friend needs to contact CC and find out which is suitable for her country or region.

Or she could talk to a fellow SA host.

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Paxum- Cosmo and EpayService

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I would be curious to know how many of the female models if any enter in any male model's video chat.

:D smarty - dear - here ( in CCCP) dont polite for women to go visit guys first!
lol
mean very vulgar for realy

Hey Doll if I became a male model here would you come to visit me in my video chat?

i wauld for sure check all here in thats 9 years being on site

will u do anal for me?
..........
hahaha
(bad joke)

but if serios . i curios whats u would do for make ppls want to come in ur room and not onse even?
realy curios:)

who... was put under a spell so that he could speak only one word each year. If he didn’t speak for two years, the following year he could speak two words and so on.

One day, he fell in love with a beautiful lady. He refrained from speaking for two whole years so he could call her “my darling.” But then he wanted to tell her he loved her, so he waited three more years. At the end of these five years, he wanted to ask her to marry him, so he waited another four years.

Finally, as the ninth year of silence ended, he led the lady to the most romantic place in the kingdom and said, “My darling, I love you! Will you marry me?”
And the lady said, “Pardon?”

Yes, very good. xx

asked a beautiful princess “Will you marry me?” The princess said NO. And the prince lived happily ever after and rode motorcycles, and fucked cute skinny girls, and hunted, and raced cars, and went to nude beaches, and dated women half his age, and drank beer, Jack Daniel´s and Captain Morgan, and drank the milk from the box , and went to rock concerts, and left the toilet seat up, and wanked whenever he wanted . THE END.

haha :)

There needs to be a thumbs up emote here in the forum :)

married an american girl, and never came home again!

Oh and I thought the next line was going to be "In a galaxy far far away...."

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I like the old when using community chat, the window can be resized to a small window instead of half the screen or more.

I find myself toggling between them often for exact same reasons! Especially forum access!

If this is your experience, what do you think, why do you choose such hosts of the same type? If this is your creativity, what do you think, why do you have such fantasies? ))))

First, let me say that, in no way did I mean disrespect to Hosts or Guests. Each interaction I have on CC is enjoyable, whether just chatting or being engaged in another activity. Of course, each interaction with a different host is a unique experience. Due to my nature, I do not often visit a Host, that I have some sort of connection with, more than a few times . With some hosts there is no connection, that is human nature, and I do not say that in a negative way. The reality of the site, and others like it, is that the Guests are here for pleasure, whatever that is to them, and the Hosts to make some income. If a bond is made during the interactions, that is a bonus. I realize that there are many men on here who lack good communication skills and have disrespected hosts. Likewise, on the other side, there are Hosts who have taken advantage of men over and above the expected normalcy, lying about what the interaction will be and breaking the "agreement" of what was negotiated. I think that all of us need to understand our expectations and limitations and realize why we are here. We are all part of this wondrous world.

I absolutely agree with you

That's because  you have no Teddy in your life ! BUt seriously , maybe you're too much with similar things and your fantasy is telling you THO GIRLS NOT BORING , JUST YOU NEED SOMETHING FRESH IN YOUR MIND ! BUT ofc , only you know the reason !. 

I do not think my Teddy is as big as your Teddy, and I have not sat on his face. You are correct. I do like to keep my life "fresh". Looking at my account over the last three years on CC, I have made over 2000 video visits to Hosts. Not many of them have been repeat visits. Remember, "variety is the spice of life".

Hahahahahaha, that will teach me to check which name I am posting under. No delete button when you post.

Loved it, Edge! More truth than irony in that, I think. Thanks for being "bored"!

I have a question of a practical or linguistic nature ... Isn`t the word "nice" a part of the English-speaking culture of communication? In the same way as everyone asks at the beginning of a conversation "how are you?" or says "nice to meet you". These phrases, after all, are not considered hackneyed cliches - this is the norm of etiquette... And another question for the members - how would you like us to react to your answers, if such dialogues cause so much skepticism? Well, the third, very rhetorical question - why lie so much? )))))

I believe that most of us, Guests and Hosts, understand the communication that we initially have are the pleasantries necessary to gauge the forthcoming interaction. I have certain "etiquette" words that I use. Realistically, most interactions contain lies due to the nature of the site. Very few people on CC, Hosts or Guests want their real lives exposed to strangers. Of course, with men, unless single, are already secretive about being on this site. In the three years that I have been here I have met a variety of Hosts. Most have been pleasurable experiences, for me at least. I will continue to visit CC and enjoy all the beautiful, intelligent, and wonderful women here.

Thank you for answer! I try to understend: is lie like one more kind of fetish here or is it more still about secrets? Fetish is a separate story ... And if secrets - it's obvious that it is impossible to figure out a person thousands of kilometers away from you for some particulars from his life ... so it turns out that a person does not recognize his right to be as he is? Maybe you and others can help me understand this issue? Thank you!

A lie, is defined as an intention to deceive. If someone has a fetish, they have an unusually strong liking or need for a particular object or activity, as a way of getting sexual pleasure. So, a lie, could be a fetish if the person who is lying to you is getting sexual pleasure from the lie itself. My guess would be that the majority of lies told on CC are meant to deceive and are not a fetish. Everyone would have a different reason for doing this. When I am assessing whether I would like to start a conversation with a host, I first enter into initial conversation to determine whether I want to continue and move on to viewing her profile. I then read the narrative and look at her photos. I looked at your profile and from your photos assessed that you are a beautiful, sensual, and alluring woman. Of course, that was based on the photos that you chose to present to seduce us men into delving further, that is understandable. Now, in your narrative you state ..The real you, if you do not pretend to be someone else, we will get along already... My question to you is, how do you determine whether the man is The Real You, or is pretending (lying)?

I feel it with my spinal cord)))) Probably The Real You can lie here too. If he is used to pretending in real life, then what he says here without pretending may turn out to be a lie in relation to his "reality". Although, I think that this is more a play on words than really possible. The Real You are more about "to be or to seem". I think you also feel the difference between assertive behavior and arrogance or even aggressiveness. It's about the same with The Real You and The Unreal. Honestly, I don't care whether a man answers questions about the country, age, job, whether it's true or false ... all this is interesting to me only as a context in which we interact, and it is virtual anyway. Although, I just asked myself a question: do most men also lie about their wives' illnesses? The Real You for me is when a person opens up, he may not disclose all the information or not report any facts at all, but at the same time, he does not play ... With The Real You there is a feeling that I can lean on him, but with The Unreal - I'm falling into emptiness. A certain connection arises with The Real You, which allows any game to be made real and forms real involvement. With The Unreal You, some formal, automatic actions take place. I hope I answered your question ...
By the way, a special thank you for such a deep learning of my profile))))

I always enjoy reading your articulate, intelligent and thought provoking writings Sofia. Although we can be pleasant, and should be, to each other on CC the bottom line is that we engage in business transactions here. It is very rare that a Guest can build a relationship with a Host outside of that business transaction. Guests are paying for the time of a Host. Now, I would have no problem engaging in a relationship for free on CC, but that is not a realistic expectation and personally I am not looking for an intimate relationship here. So, we take it as it comes and have as much fun as we can (as long as the price is reasonable).

As I managed to notice here the words "real feelings", "real relationships", "being real" are a little scary for men ... Perhaps with the combination of "real relationships" there is confusion associated with "translation difficulties" - perhaps in English relationships mean exactly the relationship between a man and a woman or some kind of kinship ... but it seems to me that this is still a broader concept ... Real feelings do not imply an obligatory continuation in real life, as well as real relationships - the subsequent procession under the march of Mendelssohn. In my understanding, this only means that now with this person I really experience these feelings and do not hide or distort them in my manifestations. This does not mean that someone owes something to other or that tomorrow I will have to experience exactly the same feelings ...
and the second point: "what a real relationship can be if I pay." Well, you admit cases when a man establishes a relationship with his doctor ... whose services he also pays for ... why can't there be a relationship in this case then? It smacks of self-esteem questions here, it seems to me))) it turns out that the guest does not believe that the host actually has sympathy for him or cannot recognize where the true sympathy is, and where is simply politeness and a desire to please in order to extend the video chat ... After all, you buy only our time ...... our attitude you still have to deserve, no matter how much you have already paid ... And now the most interesting thing ... what is a real relationship? This is unselfishness on both sides (conditionally and simply speaking), isn't it? But it turns out that men who say "what kind of relationship can be if I pay" are not ready for a disinterested relationship, are not ready to just love a woman because she is, because he loves, but can only for reciprocity, it turns out a women must also pay for men`s attitude just different currencies .... They say that when it seems to us that someone treats us somehow, this is our projection of our own attitude to this person .... It seems to me that the more we learn to gift rather than buying, the more fun we will have not only in our interactions here on the site, but also in real life ...

While I always respect your opinions Sofia, let me ask you the question ...why are you on CC? If your answer is to meet and communicate with new and diverse people and have a relationship (whatever that is) why do you charge $ per minute for that? When I ask that question of Hosts, very few will say $$ as the first thing on their list. That, of course circles back to our discussion regarding honesty and lying. Once again, bottom line is that Hosts present themselves on CC, and similar sites, to make $$$, otherwise they would use free friendship/dating sites to meet new and diverse peoples. Call it for what it is, do not delude yourself into thinking that it is other than a business arrangement.
I have absolutely no problem paying for the time of a Host.

ohhhh my dear EDGE...R!!!!
COme life in ukraine - u will dont need ask why she or any here ,, i think u will here to WITH us(hosts)
else (about me) i realy sometime ask myself to ''why i here''?
sometime i have many answers but sometime cant find anyone with real sense,

But you make the most sense to me when we chat, :)

Of course, you can ask me any questions. Although, I have already answered this question many times both on the forum and in chats and in letters .... I make money here. I would like to add "like everyone else", but I will not tell for others. Moreover, when I signed up for CC, money was not the first item on the list, it was the only item. Later, when I started communicating here on a regular basis, I saw other advantages in this work. But you are absolutely right, if I was looking for a relationship, I would look for them at other resources. Do you know at least one host in non-adult categories that does not charge per minute? I once wanted to try, for the sake of experiment, put 0 per minute - the system did not allow me to do this, the minimum allowable price is $ 0.9 per minute. But in fact, I do not understand the subject or the reasons for our dispute now (if it can be called a dispute) - I am not forcing you to build a relationship here. I am not denying that hosts are interested in income. I'm just saying that nothing prevents me from sincerely treats my guests while I am earning. And men should not convince themselves that where there is money, there can be no sincere relationship. You probably have a business or some kind of business relationship in real life - there
money is the primary goal too but at the same time you have sympathy and respect for some of the partners but not for other, with some of the business partners, you can become friends, and some of your friends regularly invite you to business breakfasts and lunches in order to sell you something .... This world is always about money ... it is material - this cannot be denied. But when you yourself are capable of sincerity and honesty, regardless of whether there is a money interest for you or not, then it is easier for you to believe in sincerity towards yourself ...

I have noticed on occasions some hosts offer free video chat to introduce themselves and get to know the member better before offering some extras in the paid video.

Perhaps ... to be honest, I don't know how this can be done on this site. There is a function "Free Teaser VideoChat" here ... But as far as I know, there is no way to set the price to 0. And this is good in my opinion))))

I think, too, what made your original post all the more entertaining to me, is the Predictabiility of the responses. Whether they are truthful or not, whether or not they express the responder's true feelings, they follow a pattern here.

It's like meeting someone on the street: "Hi, how are you?" -- while never even slowing down to actually hear the response. And the response, "Fine, thank you," -- while all the while the responder is dying inside and really wants to say, "Oh my life is hell! If only someone would stop to listen." But no one really does want to stop to listen. We want only our predictable responses.

Sorry, it's time for me to dwell on this topic, especially since your comment was not addressed to me, Phoenix, but I promise that after this answer I will definitely stop))
When I started communicating on this site, I noticed that many men, entering the chat, immediately wrote their name, age, country. And I always thought that this was a manifestation of courtesy on their part - after all, the hosts do not see the guest profiles. Now I'm thinking: maybe it's just a desire to predict the upcoming questionnaire questions, to reduce the time and the number of "nice" received?)))
And about our gravity towards predictable answers ... I think this is everyone's choice ... Formal greeting rituals help create a sense of benevolence, which is only the context, not the essence of what is happening. And what is happening to us is the responsibility of each of us. Imagine what chaos would reign in life if we stopped on the street, on the way to work, to the store or to the hospital / pharmacy and listened to about the hell of everyone who would like to share them ... But on the other hand, now our life is not much better from the fact that there is a huge number of people in it, whose hell asks to moove outward ... there is nothing good from this either for these people themselves or their environment, but until a person takes responsibility, until he decides for himself that I feel bad, but I want me to be good and ready to do something for this, until he goes to a psychologist and figure out what is really happening to him and why - no one can change the current state of affairs ... or until a person takes the bother to deal with their circumstances or organize their personal budget ... Here sometimes men go into a category "Make new friends" and ask, what am I doing in video chat? I communicate, I answer ... To which the man says: I do not want to communicate while I am paying. So why does he enter the category where there is a fee for communication then? What is he counting on? That someone will take responsibility for meeting his needs, change all the existing rules in order for him to feel good? It seems to me that in most situations we are counting on this ... And naturally we don't get it ... And life as a result becomes such pain that I'd rather sink into the illusion of predictable questions and answers ...
Well, I take a vow of silence, at least in this thread)))

Thank you Phoenix. As you can see by my replies, I was bored again this morning.

I see you have been here long enough to have memorized the culture of this place and the camhosting experience. So have I and I recognize so much of what you wrote.
There is sometimes almost a ritualistic aspect to human interactions. Not just here but in all of life. It reminds me of two dogs meeting each other (without the sniffing part) where they check out each other and their intentions.
In "real life" we may shake hands, smile, pat each other on the shoulders. Or perhaps if we are from an Asian culture we gently bow. And of course eye contact and perhaps a gentle smile.
Anyway it can become easy to be a tad bit cynical. I tend to fall into that trap when I am in a certain mood.
If you can break out of the rituals we all use here I hope we all can find a real connection with each other.