General Forum
"gifts"
Here is the text from cc faqq section on gifts - CamContacts Gifts are a great way to show your appreciation to your favorite chathosts. CamContacts Gifts are virtual – they exist only in the world of CamContacts – when you send a chathost a Gift they’ll immediately see a picture of the Gift you chose and they’ll receive the corresponding monetary value of that Gift.
Can anyone confirm to me that this is actually true, ie if a gift of say $20 is sent, that she actually recieves that amount in full?
Can anyone confirm to me that this is actually true, ie if a gift of say $20 is sent, that she actually recieves that amount in full?
RE: "gifts"
That is unacceptable. When it says she recieves all of it in the faq section. I will be making a complaint.
RE: "gifts"
If this is...think about ather 'pages' who takes even more from our hard working.It is how it is unfortunately.CC still has nice share.Nice of you to care bout hosts share ;)
RE: "gifts"
the gifts here -it's kind of a tip.
did you know that when dining in a restaurant you want to leave a tip to a nice waiter - according to the rules, he divides your tip for the whole shift (cook, security, etc.)
the same thing here - for the fact that the ss has built up its programmers, administrators, etc., who has developed this function, those who monitor the security of your accounts 24 / day, for the Confidentiality of girls as well as guys, etc., you also need to share more correctly with all
are you not in agreement?
did you know that when dining in a restaurant you want to leave a tip to a nice waiter - according to the rules, he divides your tip for the whole shift (cook, security, etc.)
the same thing here - for the fact that the ss has built up its programmers, administrators, etc., who has developed this function, those who monitor the security of your accounts 24 / day, for the Confidentiality of girls as well as guys, etc., you also need to share more correctly with all
are you not in agreement?
RE: "gifts"
As everything in life, there are charges to be paid. I had asked CC customer service about the percentage the host would receive. By the way, even charity organizations take their share of the money they receive.
RE: "gifts"
well no matter of %, it feels nice when Ir eceive a gift, even that free one " thank you", dont u agree girls?
RE: "gifts"
yes ! i always try to make gift to fav chathost. Its not hard to send gift even 10-20$ but it will make chathost smile. I dont understand why some men dont want to make smile their fav chathost.
RE: "gifts"
unfortunately, not everyone understands this, and some are trying to save money on video chat, even
new here
Hi guys and girls;)
I'm new here and full of enthusiasm to fulfill your wishes)
I'm new here and full of enthusiasm to fulfill your wishes)
Perfect host - who is yours?
What do you look for in a host? For me the best host I see on the site is Ladymodel - Great lighting, video and sound, works at home (lots of outfits to choose from) doesn't play annoying music, good price, Natural no tattoos (i wish she had kept natural breasts but i am not holding this against her) and lastly, she is attentive - she gives you all of her attention. All of this makes the perfect host for me. She is absolutely gorgeous.
RE: Perfect host - who is yours?
888girl. If I had the money, I would spend hours with her. She is the most beautiful and fun girl on here. Her smile could light up a room.
RE: Perfect host - who is yours?
Good looks but obviously something in there personality as well. A great smile is a killer !
Age - lets be honest
Lets be honest here, how many models here have been dishonest about their age?
Usually that means telling people you are younger than you actually are. I have often thought to myself "there is no way that model is so and so years old, and there is really no reason for her to lie. I am here allright, wouldn't be if I was not interested, so whats her age going to matter at this point?"
Any models here feel like being honest about this and why you are doing it?
Usually that means telling people you are younger than you actually are. I have often thought to myself "there is no way that model is so and so years old, and there is really no reason for her to lie. I am here allright, wouldn't be if I was not interested, so whats her age going to matter at this point?"
Any models here feel like being honest about this and why you are doing it?
RE: Age - lets be honest
If you already understand this, what's the point? That hosts may have their own reasons and you need to know them, why? You are asking a host to divulge something here in an open forum that may very well go against their interests as a CC host. Just to satisfy your curiosity?
RE: Age - lets be honest
as far as I know the age of each model, you can see in her profile - this is the age that is indicated in her passport, we cannot change this - this is a function of the site that automatically changes every year on her birthday
RE: Age - lets be honest
There is always someone thinking there is a kind of conspiracy going on. This time it's about the age.
RE: Age - lets be honest
A wise woman once said instead of the John I call my bathroom the Jim that way it sounds better when I say I go to the Jim first thing in the morning.
RE: Age - lets be honest
Some photos might be dated 5 years ago and that is one thing. Writing 20 years on a profile while you are 40 years old, I doubt it is possible.
RE: Age - lets be honest
u want know how long expiration date on my driver's license?
the 50 years - lol
i got they in my 26 -plastic card - and in my 75 if i still alife i still can used they
i think its there where can be real problem with pic and age
hahhaha
the 50 years - lol
i got they in my 26 -plastic card - and in my 75 if i still alife i still can used they
i think its there where can be real problem with pic and age
hahhaha
RE: Age - lets be honest
I don't think that is correct. I know one host, two accounts, two different ages. I know of another host, age was listed as 80. She looked amazingly, not a day older than 21.
RE: Age - lets be honest
Nice to know that you all have passports, now if I were only rich and single I would book a whole plane just for CC girls.
RE: When do u go to CC more often?
i usually come in mornings before work to community chat and some after work :) but yes i mostly come everyday :)
RE: When do u go to CC more often?
For me it makes no difference. I am here all year round. Sometimes I take a weekend or a week of vacation.
But Viewer in the summer visit CC less, I think for various reasons (vacation, and spend more time outside while the weather is good).
But Viewer in the summer visit CC less, I think for various reasons (vacation, and spend more time outside while the weather is good).
When is the "cutoff" day for the chat hosts' next pay period?
I want to give a few of my favorite chat hosts a gift soon. I am told that the pay day period is Aug 23rd, is that correct? What I would like to know
is when is the deadline that I can send gifts so that it will be included in their next payment?
is when is the deadline that I can send gifts so that it will be included in their next payment?
RE: When is the "cutoff" day for the chat hosts' next pay period?
I always admire men like you Paul !!!! I wish you good luck always and in everything !!!! Your girls are the happiest ladies !!!!
RE: When is the "cutoff" day for the chat hosts' next pay period?
I'm still not finding out the information I need. Obviously if I send a gift on the 23rd it won't be on the chat hosts' payment that same day, so is it 3 days prior? 4 days? Nobody seems to know. Maybe i can get this information from the admin if they will tell me.
RE: When is the "cutoff" day for the chat hosts' next pay period?
The Admin were kind enough to provide this information. So in order for it to be included on the 23rd's payment the gifts need to be made by midnight, August 22nd. This is valuable information for me to have.
RE: When is the "cutoff" day for the chat hosts' next pay period?
I wrote the answer to the second question, but for some reason it was not duplicated :(
Paul's salary for CC 2 times a month and yes the next salary is August 23rd.
Paul's salary for CC 2 times a month and yes the next salary is August 23rd.
RE: When is the "cutoff" day for the chat hosts' next pay period?
Every second Sunday 11:59 PM (GMT). This period ends on the 22-nd of August.
RE: When is the "cutoff" day for the chat hosts' next pay period?
Just hang out in Community, Goody makes announcements on when the period ends almost every night :)
Was there a purge?
Quite a few hosts are missing from my Favorites, it seems accounts without sign in for +1 year.
RE: Was there a purge?
I have been here since 2004, I had a complete history of favorites and the older ones are gone.
RE: Was there a purge?
Thanks. That's kind of what I thought. Was there any mention of why this is the new practice?
RE: Was there a purge?
I have a host with two accounts who disappeared from my favorites and is not there anymore when searching and she was here about a month ago. Was a surprise to me.
RE: Was there a purge?
Not sure if its a coincidence, have also lost a lot of contacts who I have been speaking too in the last few days. Not sure if its a coinicidence or maybe there is something more go on, maybe a crackdown on the rules as well for those who breach room restrictions?
RE: Was there a purge?
46 last week. Down to 44 now. Finally figured which. One fairly regular, the other very regular with 3 profiles, now I only see 2.
RE: Was there a purge?
Spoke to the one with 3. She thought she was logged in, it seemed to her at first but when she looked after I told her, she said it said she needed to complete some age verification or needed to contact support otherwise the profile was not visible to guests. Weird though because she's almost always online with all 3. Why one and not the others?
chat possibilities
Hi, is a girl able to deactivate open chat or 121 chat?
how to use chat with password, possible for open chat or 121 chat?
thx for answers
how to use chat with password, possible for open chat or 121 chat?
thx for answers
Can Hosts tell if we looked at their profile?
I seem to get message in chat from a host whose profile I just looked at
RE: Can Hosts tell if we looked at their profile?
I think you know if we look at prices (on the page where we choose to enter open chat or 121 chat) ?
RE: Can Hosts tell if we looked at their profile?
I have wondered the same thing. As soon as I open a chat host's profile I often get a message from her.
psychological advice?
I've chatted with a few girls here who originally were told that they would be here to offer "psychological advice".
Is that we're calling it now?
Is that we're calling it now?
RE: psychological advice?
I pity the person who depends on psychological advice from an untrained professional. A listening ear, maybe; a sympathetic (for pay) friend (for pay), maybe. But i can get that from my bartender too. Unfortunately, I can't get the same sexual fun from my bartender, even when she is a hot and sexy woman.
meeting a friend
although it might be illegal to the site and difficult because of covid Has anyone here ever meet anyone in person?
RE: meeting a friend
but what happens if it is a mutual desire. I respect your decision but after talking everyday for 6 monthes - to go to the mountains for some camping or meeting in Prague at a nice hotel (even 2 rooms) and the man will cover the costs. A friend asked me to join her in the mountains for a few days as she loves camping?
5 hours from where she lives...
5 hours from where she lives...
RE: meeting a friend
There probably are people on here who have met in person, and personally, there are one or two women that I would like to meet face to face. However, I then ask myself, what would be the point in spoiling the fantasy. As practically all the women on here are hundreds of miles away from where I live, would I really want to travel that far to, at the least have a cup of coffee with, and at the most, have sex with? Especially when there are women 30 minutes away from me that I could have both with. Once again, just my thoughts and opinion.
RE: meeting a friend
You know that if I were closer I would have coffee with you any day babedoll :-)
RE: meeting a friend
I've heard this type of proposal 10 times, 20 and more :) In the meantime, you are probably spending more time and money with this "friend." On the other side, if this is not your first meeting outside of CC, you should have learned to understand if that friend is a friend or a scammer :)
But in case you decide to take the plane, then a train and so on, have a backup plan.
But in case you decide to take the plane, then a train and so on, have a backup plan.
RE: meeting a friend
yes, a few years ago. As for now, dont worry about covid. It is a total lie to introduce a plan called "the great reset" . Covid itself doesnt exist. The threat to peoples lives is government and the vax, which I would refuse at all cost.
Bored again
Regarding the "love" thing, mentioned in other posts. I think it depends where the person is at in their lives. As we know, there are a variety of reasons why we are here. I think many men. for there own reasons, are susceptible to the love thing. I am not sure many actually come here in search of love. Just because we treat a woman nice and they treat us nice does not mean that we should let our deeper emotions rise to the surface. I understand some are sucked into it, but they need to remember this is not a dating site it is a pay for time and thrills site. Yes, we should treat each other with basic human respect and decency, while also remembering that the relationship is a transaction. I doubt many women in the long term/marriage category are actually looking for a marriage partner, certainly not a man (or woman) that frequents a sex cam site. If I were rich and single would I like to hook up with some of the women here, sure I would, there are many beautiful, intelligent, and fun women here. But love is a different matter.
RE: Bored again
Okay. You missed the point. The topic was codependency, and that was the context of my remarks. The "love thing" is often used to reinforce the sense of codependency, and that's why the "love game" can be so fraught.
Your views are conventional and apparently well-adjusted. Have fun and play responsibly.
Your views are conventional and apparently well-adjusted. Have fun and play responsibly.
RE: Bored again
The reason I started a new topic was because I did get the point and did not want to muddy the waters of the other thread.
RE: Bored again
Dear Edge, thanks for the respect shown to the other branches. And I would like to ask Seems to be not so categorical in his statements, since we all are here expressing our various opinions not in order to get another label on them)))) let's leave it for real life)))
I noticed two points in Edge's post: one - we should not allow our deep emotions rise to surface; and the second is about the fact that none of the women is ready to consider a man who is a frequent visitor of such sites as a marriage partner (by the way, this is just about codependency))).
In my opinion, very many, if not the absolute majority, ended up on this site precisely because they could not allow their deepest emotions go to surface in real life (it is not accepted in society, it will be too much for my loved one, etc.) , and these deep emotions were formed as a result of other earlier deep emotions, which for various reasons also remained unmanifested or unsatisfied ... I don't think anyone was born with the understanding that such sites are the coolest place for getting satisfaction ... Including me (as a host) appeared on this site perforce and initially experienced great resistance, and only in the process of communicating with you my point of view began to change. So, a person comes to this site as a result of suppressing his deepest emotions and here he further seeks to suppress these deepest emotions. As a result, for some time he runs around the rooms of different hosts (each is enough for a different time), and then this becomes boring and more and more boredom and melancholy begins ... a person moves from flirting and communication to fetishes, to bdsm, to various special forms of interaction and excitement, but over time he still has to look for something new. And all because the need itself (deep emotions) are ignored and suppressed. And regarding the second moment, I got the feeling that you yourself think that the fact you communicate on such sites is already a kind of label and such men cannot be considered as future husbands. Yes, as already mentioned in the previous thread, those who are ready to love, enter into a relationship, take responsibility are not particularly noticeable here. But, by the way, not all girls understand that their chosen one should be ready for this. It seems to me that it is still worth distinguishing between the concepts of love and the relationship between a man and a woman. Love is love for everything, when a person discovers the ability to love everything and everyone, then he himself is filled with that love that we all lack so much, because first of all, he begins to love himself in a real way, and not just to be selfish. And then, from this state, he can already look around and choose with which of the people he knows he would like to enter into a relationship and into what kind of relationship. And then there will be no danger even in the manifestation of their emotions on such sites, because a person will be free from any dependencies. It probably sounds utopian and theoretically ... I understand ... But please do not hide your emotions even the deepest here - if at least here you dare to show these deep feelings, you will begin to see them in a different light, this site can to be healing, not perverse.
I noticed two points in Edge's post: one - we should not allow our deep emotions rise to surface; and the second is about the fact that none of the women is ready to consider a man who is a frequent visitor of such sites as a marriage partner (by the way, this is just about codependency))).
In my opinion, very many, if not the absolute majority, ended up on this site precisely because they could not allow their deepest emotions go to surface in real life (it is not accepted in society, it will be too much for my loved one, etc.) , and these deep emotions were formed as a result of other earlier deep emotions, which for various reasons also remained unmanifested or unsatisfied ... I don't think anyone was born with the understanding that such sites are the coolest place for getting satisfaction ... Including me (as a host) appeared on this site perforce and initially experienced great resistance, and only in the process of communicating with you my point of view began to change. So, a person comes to this site as a result of suppressing his deepest emotions and here he further seeks to suppress these deepest emotions. As a result, for some time he runs around the rooms of different hosts (each is enough for a different time), and then this becomes boring and more and more boredom and melancholy begins ... a person moves from flirting and communication to fetishes, to bdsm, to various special forms of interaction and excitement, but over time he still has to look for something new. And all because the need itself (deep emotions) are ignored and suppressed. And regarding the second moment, I got the feeling that you yourself think that the fact you communicate on such sites is already a kind of label and such men cannot be considered as future husbands. Yes, as already mentioned in the previous thread, those who are ready to love, enter into a relationship, take responsibility are not particularly noticeable here. But, by the way, not all girls understand that their chosen one should be ready for this. It seems to me that it is still worth distinguishing between the concepts of love and the relationship between a man and a woman. Love is love for everything, when a person discovers the ability to love everything and everyone, then he himself is filled with that love that we all lack so much, because first of all, he begins to love himself in a real way, and not just to be selfish. And then, from this state, he can already look around and choose with which of the people he knows he would like to enter into a relationship and into what kind of relationship. And then there will be no danger even in the manifestation of their emotions on such sites, because a person will be free from any dependencies. It probably sounds utopian and theoretically ... I understand ... But please do not hide your emotions even the deepest here - if at least here you dare to show these deep feelings, you will begin to see them in a different light, this site can to be healing, not perverse.
RE: Bored again
As always Sofia I enjoy reading your thoughtful, articulate and enlightening posts. Thank you
RE: Bored again
I apologize for the "categorical" nature of my quick reply. My mind tends that way when I am trying to define something and not allow another to box my answer in. But that certainly works both ways, and so to your point... this is an interesting topic in itself, and Edge you have shown yourself to be open-minded here also.
Sofia you posit an interesting evolution to a member's experiences here. I think the distance created by CC as a remote connection that enables relationships to develop in a "safe" way can be a barrier to deepening those relationships in the long run, because location, language, culture can be obstacles too great to overcome.
But I think you are right that an honest and deeply-felt relationship here can happen, and it can be a healing one, even if it creates hurt, if you can transcend that hurt and can see clearly. To give just one example.
And sometimes as I've said elsewhere the connection happens in the moment and leaves you stunned, having lost track of time or a sense of yourself. :P
Sofia you posit an interesting evolution to a member's experiences here. I think the distance created by CC as a remote connection that enables relationships to develop in a "safe" way can be a barrier to deepening those relationships in the long run, because location, language, culture can be obstacles too great to overcome.
But I think you are right that an honest and deeply-felt relationship here can happen, and it can be a healing one, even if it creates hurt, if you can transcend that hurt and can see clearly. To give just one example.
And sometimes as I've said elsewhere the connection happens in the moment and leaves you stunned, having lost track of time or a sense of yourself. :P
Codependency...
Hello to those not many, apparently, who are now staying here))) Despite this, I will still risk raising a rather serious topic that has become relevant to me myself. Someone can answer right now I hope, someone when he returns ...
I am now reading a book about codependency and codependence people (these are people who are dependent on people who are addicted to certain substances or habits) - a topic that is quite discussed today ... And I wonder what you think about this in the context of your personal life or in the context of the site ... After all, there are a lot of dependent people here also (it seems to me today it is very difficult to meet an independent person anywhere, not only here ...) and they have relatives who know or suspect about them addictions or are just very worried about them. Perhaps someone ended up here with us just as a result of their codependency ... Or maybe even we (chathosts) become codependent in relation to our members in some cases? ...
I am grateful in advance to everyone who takes the trouble to think and speak out about this. Thank you!
I am now reading a book about codependency and codependence people (these are people who are dependent on people who are addicted to certain substances or habits) - a topic that is quite discussed today ... And I wonder what you think about this in the context of your personal life or in the context of the site ... After all, there are a lot of dependent people here also (it seems to me today it is very difficult to meet an independent person anywhere, not only here ...) and they have relatives who know or suspect about them addictions or are just very worried about them. Perhaps someone ended up here with us just as a result of their codependency ... Or maybe even we (chathosts) become codependent in relation to our members in some cases? ...
I am grateful in advance to everyone who takes the trouble to think and speak out about this. Thank you!
RE: Codependency...
Perhaps it is best to initially define codependency. My sense is you are describing the person who via their dysfunctional relationship with another person ends up facilitating the other person's addictions, whatever they may be. My hunch is people who do this usually do not realize they are actually hurting their friend, family member or partner. The classic addictions that quickly spring to mind involve alcohol and drugs. But certainly there are many other self destructive addictions such as food, gambling or even working too much. And since we are at CC we need to mention addiction to sex as well. It seems likely to me that many here may be "addicted to sex." Some say there is no such thing as a sex addiction, but I would disagree. If you go to CC Community often enough for example you will sooner or later hear about what people call the "money slave." In this situation for example hosts consciously may take advantage of a member's unhealthy addiction to a host and rationalize the relationship by saying things such as, "No one forces him (or her) to be here." I would suggest this is a rationalization and does not speak well of the host's moral character.
RE: Codependency...
It won't surprise anyone who knows me as Mr. Bla Bla but I ran out of space on my prior response. :)
Anyway it works both ways. My understanding is that although men can fall victim to codependency, women comprise the majority of codependents, perhaps because women seem to be biologically a bit more "hard wired" for relationships than men in many respects. Once again thanks for the post Sofia.
Anyway it works both ways. My understanding is that although men can fall victim to codependency, women comprise the majority of codependents, perhaps because women seem to be biologically a bit more "hard wired" for relationships than men in many respects. Once again thanks for the post Sofia.
RE: Codependency...
Thanks for the answer, NoOne! ))) Are you a multi-namemaker or is this actually your first post that I met here? )
In many ways I agree with you, but I want to clarify some points right away. Regarding the definition of a codependents: they, of course, contribute to the dependence of a loved one (since recovery from codependency is accompanied by an improvement in the situation of the addict), but in my opinion, the codependent initially attracts (seeks) an already addicted person and hurts not so much him, how much to hisself ... and, of course, does not realize it ...
"It seems to you that many here may be addicted to sex", but not you, of course? )))))) You're right, there are a huge number of very different addictions. Which one is inherent in you? ))) For example, I am quite obviously addicted to sweets (from what is on the surface))))) And also, I wanted to comment on the moral qualities of the hosts that satisfy the needs of slaves ... I think that we should not do such categorical conclusions, since everything is very individual. I myself have already experienced this on myself more than once - a very fine line - where is the needs of a member, and where is my own responsibility and my own choice.
And do you have anything to do with codependency in your personal life experience (here or in real life)?
In many ways I agree with you, but I want to clarify some points right away. Regarding the definition of a codependents: they, of course, contribute to the dependence of a loved one (since recovery from codependency is accompanied by an improvement in the situation of the addict), but in my opinion, the codependent initially attracts (seeks) an already addicted person and hurts not so much him, how much to hisself ... and, of course, does not realize it ...
"It seems to you that many here may be addicted to sex", but not you, of course? )))))) You're right, there are a huge number of very different addictions. Which one is inherent in you? ))) For example, I am quite obviously addicted to sweets (from what is on the surface))))) And also, I wanted to comment on the moral qualities of the hosts that satisfy the needs of slaves ... I think that we should not do such categorical conclusions, since everything is very individual. I myself have already experienced this on myself more than once - a very fine line - where is the needs of a member, and where is my own responsibility and my own choice.
And do you have anything to do with codependency in your personal life experience (here or in real life)?
RE: Codependency...
Although I enjoy answering many subjects brought up in the Forum , both contributors questions/answers are too long for me to address each and every point. The broad definition of Addiction "is an inability to stop using a substance or engaging in a behavior even though it is causing psychological and physical harm." My guess would be that a majority of people, hosts and members, on CC do not fall into the category of "addiction". Of those that maybe "addicted" I am guessing again that many are not "sex addicts". We are on CC for a variety of reasons, and as hosts will tell you, they come across a great variety of behaviors and activities throughout the range of human behavior.
Are we as members "codependent" on the hosts we frequent? It depends on whether the relationship is unhealthy for one or the other or both. I would submit that, although it drains my bank account, my interactions are fun and stress relieving, therefore not unhealthy for me.
So, based on the above, I do not consider myself to be "addicted" or "codependent" while engaged in activities on CC.
Are we as members "codependent" on the hosts we frequent? It depends on whether the relationship is unhealthy for one or the other or both. I would submit that, although it drains my bank account, my interactions are fun and stress relieving, therefore not unhealthy for me.
So, based on the above, I do not consider myself to be "addicted" or "codependent" while engaged in activities on CC.
RE: Codependency...
If I was addicted to masturbation, and then became addicted to sex, would it be safe to say that my addiction got out of hand?
RE: Codependency...
Are you the linguist, Smarty? Or are you a smart addict? ))) Or is everything always in your hands? )))
RE: Codependency...
Thank you for your answer)) You, as always, are a lover of balancing on the edge without falling in one direction or the other)))
RE: Codependency...
What else is left for me? You are not ready to play other games with me ...))))
RE: Codependency...
I am always ready for you. The problem is, you are never here when I am. :-(
RE: Codependency...
"Petite, et dabitur vobis; quaerite, et invenietis; pulsate, et aperietur vobis. Omnis enim qui petit, accipit; et, qui quaerit, invenit; et pulsanti aperietur."
I do not claim the authorship of these lines, but I will not dare to challenge either))
I do not claim the authorship of these lines, but I will not dare to challenge either))
RE: Codependency...
guilty as charged :( It manifests in many forms. None healthy for the mind or soul.
RE: Codependency...
but if serios - i think all fault in dofamin
thats only one about we all here or not here addicted fo
thats only one about we all here or not here addicted fo
RE: Codependency...
If seriously... If seriously, I think that all the fault is in finding the one in whom is fault for everything))))
RE: Codependency...
I have no special insight and fortunately am not in a position to have to make any sort of diagnosis about co-dependency. But it seems to me the connection between two people is everything. If you don't turn her into the object of your desire, create stories about your real or imagined relationship, you can just be with her and enjoy what happens. And maybe the connection between you will deepen into something you can't define.
A host-friend here years ago told me the most dangerous game on CC is the love game. Love is a blessing, not an obligation. Co-dependence is a forced relationship. You can't just decide to love somebody: it happens. Of course here it's too easy to mistake a sensation in the loins for love, but if you are self-aware enough you get through that. Especially when you make that connection, even once.
Thank you for the forum post Sofia.
A host-friend here years ago told me the most dangerous game on CC is the love game. Love is a blessing, not an obligation. Co-dependence is a forced relationship. You can't just decide to love somebody: it happens. Of course here it's too easy to mistake a sensation in the loins for love, but if you are self-aware enough you get through that. Especially when you make that connection, even once.
Thank you for the forum post Sofia.
RE: Codependency...
Very insightful Seems. And although I never thought of it that way, falling in love or even just getting a crush is both a huge thrill but also one of the bigger risks here. Like you I have always said it may be easy to confuse lust and love for many of us. I am not sure quite sure where that line that crosses over into co dependency is, but it clearly happens over and over. And because members pay for the company of hosts it is easily taken advantage of by some. And in regards to falling in love? It has been said many times and in many ways that it is really a form of insanity driven by hormones. As always "enjoy but play responsibly." I actually stole that quote from our local lottery officials but I do believe it works here as well. :)
RE: Codependency...
Hahaha pete, I like the lottery analogy. "Play responsibly"= watch your wallet. Of course there are other games to play here, not just the love game. Maybe it's easier if you have a fetish to pursue and satisfy, because then the "object of your affection" is clearly just an object of your lust.
Of course, maybe one day you will look up from the feet and fall in love with the face...
Of course, maybe one day you will look up from the feet and fall in love with the face...
RE: Codependency...
Hahaha yes! Of course, there's always personality to consider also... :))))
RE: Codependency...
APOLOGISE but u all here talk not about love -
about love t o self - yes - but love some other thats not about whats u try tell here -
i bad with english ,for expleine right - i find my things in youtub for help to expleine u
whats i try to say .
alse i would add ''love its to take the responsibility onself for someone '' i never meet thats here - alll u talk about thats about love to self and own feelings
https://youtu.be/ZKrHz01wfiA
about love t o self - yes - but love some other thats not about whats u try tell here -
i bad with english ,for expleine right - i find my things in youtub for help to expleine u
whats i try to say .
alse i would add ''love its to take the responsibility onself for someone '' i never meet thats here - alll u talk about thats about love to self and own feelings
https://youtu.be/ZKrHz01wfiA
RE: Codependency...
I agree with you for the most part, xxbabe. My host friend was talking about the love "game," not about love itself. The game is an illusion. And the connection two people make doesn't have to be about love. When two people really connect (even here on CC), it is about presence. It is about not being lost in your own dream, but instead paying attention to another. And it takes two to tango. If love happens in that situation (I think it can), it is almost by accident.
Those are just my thoughts on the subject, nothing more.
Thank you for your reply :)
And thank you for the link. Because it's in Russian, I'll have to figure out how to figure it out :))) But knowing it comes from you, I know it will be worth checking out.
Those are just my thoughts on the subject, nothing more.
Thank you for your reply :)
And thank you for the link. Because it's in Russian, I'll have to figure out how to figure it out :))) But knowing it comes from you, I know it will be worth checking out.
RE: Codependency...
Sorry, I was absent for a while, it was not ignoring comments))) I'm glad that new members have joined)) And I absolutely support Babedoll (by the way, the video has subtitles in Russian only, the man speaks English so, Seems, to find out just click on the link and listen))))))
Both Seems and Pete wrote about how easy it is to confuse lust with love - Babedoll gave an exhaustive answer in my opinion - lust is to take, and love is to give. The only thing, I will add, it seems to me that "to love is to take responsibility for another person on yourself" - it`s fair rather in relation to men. Loving on the part of a woman is a little different. I also did not meet those who want to love here)) Judging by the comments, people create special love games to make this question not so scary, but even in the game, they are still afraid of this. On the one hand, the most desirable, and on the other, the most frightening state - to love.... At first glance, a strange paradox .. On the other hand, usually the most scary things are what are unknown. And a person is capable of voluntarily and sincerely giving only what he has in abundance. Therefore, there are no people willing to give, because it is not there is no abundance of it only, but by and large, most of us does not know what love is. This site is the perfect place to satisfy curiosity and experiment. Therefore, I would urge the members not to be afraid of any games and feelings or states (I will try to explain this in more detail in the Edge`s thread). And the phrase of the lottery officials I would be formulated "Enjoy playing consciously")))
And yet, it seems to me that we smoothly began to discuss not codependency, but the addiction itself, but I think it doesn’t matter - it’s important that we talk about what is important to us! Thank you all for this))))
Both Seems and Pete wrote about how easy it is to confuse lust with love - Babedoll gave an exhaustive answer in my opinion - lust is to take, and love is to give. The only thing, I will add, it seems to me that "to love is to take responsibility for another person on yourself" - it`s fair rather in relation to men. Loving on the part of a woman is a little different. I also did not meet those who want to love here)) Judging by the comments, people create special love games to make this question not so scary, but even in the game, they are still afraid of this. On the one hand, the most desirable, and on the other, the most frightening state - to love.... At first glance, a strange paradox .. On the other hand, usually the most scary things are what are unknown. And a person is capable of voluntarily and sincerely giving only what he has in abundance. Therefore, there are no people willing to give, because it is not there is no abundance of it only, but by and large, most of us does not know what love is. This site is the perfect place to satisfy curiosity and experiment. Therefore, I would urge the members not to be afraid of any games and feelings or states (I will try to explain this in more detail in the Edge`s thread). And the phrase of the lottery officials I would be formulated "Enjoy playing consciously")))
And yet, it seems to me that we smoothly began to discuss not codependency, but the addiction itself, but I think it doesn’t matter - it’s important that we talk about what is important to us! Thank you all for this))))
RE: Codependency...
Aargh. I was thinking of another video that babedoll shared with me, maybe in comm chat, not the one she mentioned in her post. The video she mentioned here... making a distinction between lust and love...that seems straightforward.
But I was not necessarily talking about love when I mentioned making a connection, and perhaps I put emphasis on love because it can be so overwhelming a "connection." Often the interaction here is a transaction, simply enough: I want something from you, and you want something from me. It can be boobs and butts, or time and attention, dancing around a fetish, whatever. It is self-directed, as it were, and then we get whatever we can from the interaction.
But at times in your meetings you discover more, a sympathy of feeling & thoughts & disposition (and yes, even lust), and that can in turn lead to something else that you may have trouble defining. In my experience here it is unpredictable and rare, and it has led to the most memorable encounters I've had.
I'm veering off topic here but thought maybe this would be interesting.
But I was not necessarily talking about love when I mentioned making a connection, and perhaps I put emphasis on love because it can be so overwhelming a "connection." Often the interaction here is a transaction, simply enough: I want something from you, and you want something from me. It can be boobs and butts, or time and attention, dancing around a fetish, whatever. It is self-directed, as it were, and then we get whatever we can from the interaction.
But at times in your meetings you discover more, a sympathy of feeling & thoughts & disposition (and yes, even lust), and that can in turn lead to something else that you may have trouble defining. In my experience here it is unpredictable and rare, and it has led to the most memorable encounters I've had.
I'm veering off topic here but thought maybe this would be interesting.
Sweden?
Hello online playmates!
So I was thinking, maybe someone more then me in here is from Sweden?
I hope so!
So I was thinking, maybe someone more then me in here is from Sweden?
I hope so!
RE: Group session
it's kinda hard to get people organized for this, most come around at different times, so most group sessions happen randomly, by chance :))
RE: Group session
I would think the logistics and organisation would be difficult to manage.
Sure, you could get all the users "signed up" for it, but how would you stop other traffic coming in and potentially breaking it up by going 1-2-1.
All 3 of you hosts already commented are stunning women, stopping those guests (passing traffic if you will) either coming in half way through, or as above going to 1-2-1 would be nigh on impossible unless all other users temporarily blocked for the group show, and that's not great for any regulars unaware of the group show.
I say this with absolutley no knowledge of being a host (or how it works now) , just a happy guest here.
good luck if you can get it done, certainly interesting, might be a new revenue stream?
Good luck if you can
Sure, you could get all the users "signed up" for it, but how would you stop other traffic coming in and potentially breaking it up by going 1-2-1.
All 3 of you hosts already commented are stunning women, stopping those guests (passing traffic if you will) either coming in half way through, or as above going to 1-2-1 would be nigh on impossible unless all other users temporarily blocked for the group show, and that's not great for any regulars unaware of the group show.
I say this with absolutley no knowledge of being a host (or how it works now) , just a happy guest here.
good luck if you can get it done, certainly interesting, might be a new revenue stream?
Good luck if you can
RE: Group session
2 options: as i know, only the first member that came in video can take the model in one2one. or there are session with password. the model is online, but a member can get in video only if he has the password
RE: Group session
We are here very often to do it,,,
its easy organise
just need exactly know mmodels who u want to be with
its easy organise
just need exactly know mmodels who u want to be with
RE: New topic
it is possible:)
people are happy that lockdown is over and they should not stay at home all the time, so they try to compensate the time they stayed at home with spending their vacations:))))
by the way, how is it going the summer for everyone?
people are happy that lockdown is over and they should not stay at home all the time, so they try to compensate the time they stayed at home with spending their vacations:))))
by the way, how is it going the summer for everyone?
RE: New topic
Summer is going. Thats all :D I had mini holidays near the Black sea. Hope will have one more in August. Anyway cc is quiet now)
RE: Ur dream host
I believe the best way to help you would be to visit you to give an assessment of your performance.
RE: Ur dream host
Ahh..surely that is one of the "eternal" questions that roll around this "space." Every host wants the key to more vids, Which is understandable of course. I have to believe most people would believe with the following statement: "It is impossible to please them all." Anyway....I have pondered how a host might handle this. Perhaps a couple of accounts with a different "persona" so as to appeal to different members. Such as: sweet (and sorta innocent", dom, girl next door, femme fatale, etc.....
Can Hosts see if customers are online in CC
Like how we can see when Hostess' were last online?
RE: Can Hosts see if customers are online in CC
I wondered the same thing. I think there is one site where the chat hosts can see when you are online there. I am no longer there partly because of that.
RE: Can Hosts see if customers are online in CC
I know on imlive the models can see if your on
RE: Can Hosts see if customers are online in CC
Yep, they lost my business for that reason too
Memorable Encounters
What makes a memorable encounter in video chat? For guests is it the physical attractiveness of the woman , her intellect, the fact that she is articulate and understands your language, her professionalism, her positive engagement in the activity, her genuineness or other factors? For hosts, what makes a memorable encounter for you?
RE: Memorable Encounters
a man who can flirt, has imagination, but also can have a conversation and humour is a man i can always remember without even looking at my notes :D in one word: chemistry!
RE: Memorable Encounters
Unusual requests and fetishes, extraordinary compliments, and yes - big tips as well :):) And as DariaUkr , I have also got a memory for faces.
RE: Memorable Encounters
As for me, must be friends or regulars for me remmebering everything about him without taking notes..before were not tips..but still we have regulars and men who were in our memory.but usualy must be visit not 1 time in year!
RE: Memorable Encounters
As a member, I'd say all of the above. Physical attractiveness is important, for that is what initially will attract me -- but it is by no means the most important factor. And, if that is all there is, I may even enjoy a moment of sexual satisfaction with her; but that is all it will be: "a moment."
If on the other hand, she is someone I can connect with on an intellectual and emotional level, if there is an ability to communicate and understand each other, if both she and I are positively engaged in the activity - then she will become for me someone I enjoy being with again and again. That is what makes our video chats memorable.
And when I have found that person, I desire to see no one else, and everyone else fades into the background.
If on the other hand, she is someone I can connect with on an intellectual and emotional level, if there is an ability to communicate and understand each other, if both she and I are positively engaged in the activity - then she will become for me someone I enjoy being with again and again. That is what makes our video chats memorable.
And when I have found that person, I desire to see no one else, and everyone else fades into the background.
RE: Memorable Encounters
works both ways, I've had hosts that were quite rude (maybe it was their style) and demanding (come into one-2-one, send gift, give cam). I don't mind being asked, but not demanded. But I still think it is super tacky to ask the member to give a gift.
RE: Memorable Encounters
I agree with you there cam4.
I will leave if a girl says "go 121" after 30 seconds. If, after some conversation, the girl wants 121 to feel comfortable with the experience to come, more often than not I will accommodate.
I will leave if a girl says "go 121" after 30 seconds. If, after some conversation, the girl wants 121 to feel comfortable with the experience to come, more often than not I will accommodate.
Handy Control
Hi. Is there an easy way to find people on here that know how to control a Handy toy? It's tiresome, and a bit overwhelming, trying to pm anyone and everyone about it.
We know
We know that in Community Chat you girls go down the list of hosts sending PMs, but please think about starting at the bottom and going upwards. It is tiresome answering your PM but not getting a reply because a guest at the top of the list has answered first. Thank you.
RE: We know
We know that you guys love Community chat and free chat rooms. But it's sometimes tiresome to spend hours online just to keep up cute free conversations)))) Please think about starting in video chat - I'm sure the response rate from us girls will tend to exceed 100%))))) A lot of thanks )))
RE: We know
Personally my modud operandi is to start in Community Chat, then move to PM chat and get a feeling for the woman. If I get a good vibe I then move to video. Diving into a video right away without any prior conversation has not been very successful for me. I also think that going into a woman's room without checking with her is a bit rude.
RE: We know
I understand you and agree with you. It is really nice for the guest to show respect for the host. Although, sometimes it is also very nice when a man shows a sense of possessiveness and breaks into the video chat without warning - varietas delectat.... And of course, it also looks cute when the host shows respect for the guest and provides an opportunity to meet in free correspondence, but everything is good that measure)))) But, in fact, it is useless to write on such topics, because it depends on the person, on his respect for himself in the first place. If he respects himself and those around him in life and appreciates his own and others' time and efforts, then he always leaves the best and sometimes even amazing impression on the site. And if a person in life is looking only for an opportunity to save money and underpay, and at the same time wonders why his clients and contractors are all so greedy and intractable, then here he will also behave exactly the same, no matter how much and no matter what we write about it. .. As for me, one of the best features of this site is that there are a lot of people here who know how to respect themselves and others! Thank you so much for this! )))))
RE: We know
Sofia, you are right, there are times I set up to meet with a young lady, and there are also times i simply like to go in and surprise them for a few minutes to see how they are doing. :)
P.S. Sofia is a fun one to visit
P.S. Sofia is a fun one to visit
RE: We know
There are a lot of guests who spend a lot of time in free chat and talk about sex and do not want to pay. Such people do not value my time. This is not respect for models in the first place and not a desire to pay. After such cases, the trust in guests decreases.
I can write here a list of nicknames that are constantly logged in to spend time for free, but I will not do that.
Have a nice day, everyone, and justice in this world.
I can write here a list of nicknames that are constantly logged in to spend time for free, but I will not do that.
Have a nice day, everyone, and justice in this world.
RE: We know
80% of the guys in a comm chat usually dont do vids, or they vid extremelly rarely.
so if you dont want to waste your time, simply dont go to comm chat . easy:)
so if you dont want to waste your time, simply dont go to comm chat . easy:)
RE: We know
i don't think she was reffering to chatting for free in comm chat, but about the guests who come in our rooms and want to talk for hours without ever joining the video chat. both valid arguments, but u 2 were talking about different things, i think. have fun!
RE: We know
95% from com chat was in my video ,
and i courios how can u know about all guys in com chat? are u host?
and i courios how can u know about all guys in com chat? are u host?
RE: We know
Agree with you babedoll. I met you in community chat. I have no idea what 80% of members do anywhere, anytime lol
RE: We know
lets say i've been told it by some number of hosts. well, if 95% of the comm chat guys were in ur payed chat, then you are lucky and a big welldone, babydoll :)
RE: We know
yes ,indeed,i am lucky here
btw u are in my 5% who dont did my pay videochat from comunitychat-probably cose i didnt invited u in my nude privat chat
btw u are in my 5% who dont did my pay videochat from comunitychat-probably cose i didnt invited u in my nude privat chat
RE: We know
In comm chat the intelligent hosts like Babedoll capture our attention with interesting conversation :)
The hosts that simply send PMs with "come to me I'm naked" most of the people on comm chat ignore, so for those it probably is 95% that don't come to video.
The hosts that simply send PMs with "come to me I'm naked" most of the people on comm chat ignore, so for those it probably is 95% that don't come to video.
RE: We know
I can't speak for anyone else in CommChat - but I ignore just about 100% of PM's in Comm Chat, especially the ones that "Come see me I'm naked". Occasionally, I will respond if the host seems genuinely interested in conversation, but rarely have I found that to be true (the PM's, that is). Most are just come-ons.
RE: We know
more and more often I get the impression that people come to the site in order to crap someone as much as possible. and apparently they get a lot of pleasure from it. Feel like a hero-winner if they succeeded in public.
guys ! you are in the wrong place! self-realization occurs in deeds and not in words.stop lie urself
nobody perfect on earth - let's respect each other - at least for not to clog our own brain with not bottom shit at all .
here, both girls and men would like to find something positive but I noticed the longer they look for it-themore they deeper in the negative.
want to make the world a better place - start with yourself!
believe me - it works
wish all a lot of positive and dirty sex!XOXO
guys ! you are in the wrong place! self-realization occurs in deeds and not in words.stop lie urself
nobody perfect on earth - let's respect each other - at least for not to clog our own brain with not bottom shit at all .
here, both girls and men would like to find something positive but I noticed the longer they look for it-themore they deeper in the negative.
want to make the world a better place - start with yourself!
believe me - it works
wish all a lot of positive and dirty sex!XOXO
RE: We know
The great thing about a free society is that I do not have to answer inane questions like yours.
RE: We know
I do have empathy for hosts trying to get vids in community chat room. Because I have been participating in that "space" for far too many years I have to believe I have seen every possible type of approach to lure members to vid. They range from the simple, "Hi," to the the sexually explicit "I am wet and horny for you bby," to the truly creative enticement that appeals to the mind and not just the male sex drive. I am sure it is frustrating to the hosts to chat in there and not have it result in a video. But the fact is many people just go there to talk with friends or kill time. My response to the private messages (PMs) from hosts has varied over the years except for the fact I would like to think I am at the very least not rude in declining their offers of a vid. As always I wish all hosts long vids with decent human beings and may all members find their fantasy host.
RE: We know
Kindly and well put, pete. Which means more hosts will now yearn to get you in vid and be sadly disappointed.
RE: We know
Oh, it's good that most of the guests on CC don't waste their time on community chat, but take and call without any hesitation. They know exactly what they want and this attracts the model.
Reflections
After 3 years on CC and 2330 video visits spread over my 3 nicknames, it is time for me to reflect on my activities here. It is time for me to concentrate on 2/3 girls as regulars. I have tended to jump from girl to girl which has produced some excitement but a lot of wasted time and money. I really need to stick with those girls who have a good heart and soul and that I know I will have a fun time with.
A question I have for hosts is (I think I know the answer) do you prefer a few regulars or a bigger variety of guests?
A question for guests is, do you prefer to see 2/3 girls on a regular basis or a variety of many girls?
A question I have for hosts is (I think I know the answer) do you prefer a few regulars or a bigger variety of guests?
A question for guests is, do you prefer to see 2/3 girls on a regular basis or a variety of many girls?
RE: Reflections
Of course I prefer regular guests.
Friendship + sympathy + interesting time together often develop with regular guests (you know what I mean)
P.S. you said you have several nicknames here, can you name them?
Friendship + sympathy + interesting time together often develop with regular guests (you know what I mean)
P.S. you said you have several nicknames here, can you name them?
RE: Reflections
to have a regular guest, you need to meet new guests who can later become permanent hehe
RE: Reflections
Been thinking the same, been here a lot longer and got to say I prefer having 2 or 3 regular hosts that I chat with. They have changed over time as chathosts come and go. In part I prefer a couple of regular hosts because I have my own strange need from videochats that can be hard to fulfill, but also because for me, everything that we do on here is more fun if there is a good connection with at the chathost. At the moment I have two girls I chat too regulalry, neither get fully naked and they understand my need. Most days when i am here, we chat for up to an hour, but if I only have 10 minutes to chat one day, then I tell them, they know what to do/what they dont need to do and we are all happy.